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Hello beautiful soul!
I find that parents are so "desperate" to teach their children kindness.
Yet, children are born inherently kind. It isn't something we need to teach them.
AND... we're unable to be the embodiment of kindness - unless we're kind to ourselves.
So on a scale of 1-10, how kind are you to yourself?
- What's your self-talk?
- How much do you judge yourself? And others?
- How open is your heart?
- What's your level of empathy?
Kindness isn't something that needs to be "taught". It is something that is a lived experience.
To be kind requires an open heart. To be kind is to be understanding. To be kind is to be curious.
To be kind doesn't mean to be a doormat, nor does it mean to be a pushover, and it definitely doesn't mean to betray yourself.
Kindness starts with self.
The incredible Dr Becky Kennedy shares this tip about yelling; "If you want to stop yelling at your kids... stop yelling at yourself."
So then.. if you want your children to be kind, learn to be kind to you.
Sometimes being kind to ourselves is to have compassion for what we are going through.
Sometimes being kind to ourselves is being gentle with our heart as we navigate something challenging.
Sometimes being kind to ourselves is letting go of the facade that we need to have it all together and all figured out.
Right now, with the divide and segregation that's going on worldwide, what we can all agree on is - we can all do with more kindness, understanding, and compassion.
Our children are watching us.
Our children are watching us and listening to us navigate differences in choices.
Our children are watching us and listening to us navigate this challenging time.
It doesn't matter what we "teach" them. It matters who we are.
It isn't kind to you or others if you're not voicing what you need for Fear of judgement.
It isn't kind to you or others if you're trying to fit in.
It isn't kind to you or others when you're judging over understanding.
It isn't kind to you or others when you're being untrue to you.
It isn't kind to be making choices from Fear. It isn't kind to you or others.
It isn't kind to be living from Fear. To you or others.
If you look at your children, especially if they are between 0-2 years old... They are the embodiment of kindness... and they are the embodiment of acceptance...forgiveness.... joy.... humility..... Love.
To teach kindness - live it. Be it.
How we parent right now, is going to determine the leadership for the next 50 years.
Our parenting matters more than ever. It's a time in history where families need to rise and step up. What kind of world do we want for our children?
Because the world we want for our children lives in the way we parent.
The generation of children alive in this time and space have an incredibly important role for humanity.
We're either going to be creating a kind, forgiving, collaborative, and connected world or one where we are consistently against each other.
Your children need you. They need your leadership. They need you to be kind to you.
Remember, your children don't listen to what you tell them to do - they copy what they observe from you.
Sending love,
Yummii xx
PS Guess what? Do you know what would TRULY reinforce to your children the magic of kindness? When you can meet them with kindness in those moments you feel and judge that they don't deserve it.
Imagine how your life would have been different if you were met with kindness when you didn't feel worthy of it?
This is how the world heals.
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