Everyday is a brand new day

How does it feel to say these words: "I don't know!"

Does it feel disempowering? Do you feel inadequate? Do you feel somewhat silly? Or does it conjure up curiosity? And excitement?

....Or are you thinking..."Well, it depends?!"..!

What if "not knowing" is a powerful place to stand?... Pause for a second, and just sit with it!

....Imagine... the power of "Not knowing". 

One of the biggest challenges for a new parent is being able to sit in the unknown and building the capacity to embrace not having the answers - and feeling empowered in that. 

What if you never knew your child? Or knew your partner/ spouse? That each day you wake up and it's a brand new day? What would it be like to bring curiosity and wonder each day to these relationships? What if you could liberate yourself from what you have decided about them?

Having a second child, I could see myself fall into the trap of comparing, thinking that "I know it", and trying to find the familiar in an unfamiliar place - because that's what the mind tries to do.

However - nothing about having a second child is familiar. It's a brand new circumstance. When I place past experience or unconscious expectations into my relationship with our 4-month-old Brooklyn, I lose the magic of being present. I dilute the brand new experience of being a mother - to two children; and meeting what each need - and also, what I need. 

Parenting is humbling as it is expansive. I LOVE that it permits me to "not know" and providing a training ground to embrace the unknown. It is only in the unknown that we grow, that we expand, that magic happens. 

"The beginner's mindset" is so powerful. To be able to see, hear, feel, bring an utterly untarnished view to our loved ones, and our life allows us to gain fresh perspectives on what could be testing and challenging times. 

Every day we are a parent - it is a brand new day, a brand new lesson, and we have never met our child before this day.

We are not the same person we were yesterday - nor is our child. And we will find that the struggle starts brewing when we are attempting to force what we know from the yesterday - into today.

"Every day is a brand new day" - I don't know what the day holds, I have no idea what possibilities are unfolding, and I can meet it with an open heart and mind. 

When Avery was born, I had this mantra "Every day is a brand new day" on our vision board. It was my saving grace. For when Avery woke up every hour or two - I reminded myself that I had a choice. To carry my frustration forward OR release and leave it behind, and start anew.

Now, as Avery is four - it's still a powerful mantra. It reminds me to observe him. To get to know him and let go of what I think I already know about him.

This makes parenting enjoyable and provides some hope and solace when we are presented with something challenging. 

Every day is a brand new day. You have no idea what today holds or the possibilities that will unfold. I invite you to meet each day letting go of all that was yesterday - and know you are worthy to receive the gift of a new day.