The fear of dying
Hello beautiful soul!
The Fear of dying is one of the 6 biggest fears.
The thing is, in every moment, we do face death.
A part of us is always dying... The power lives in choosing which part dies.
A part of me dies when I betray myself... It's the part that connects me to my Heart. It's the part that has me feel at peace or feel whole.
...and a part of me also dies when I choose Love for myself. It's the part of me that wants to hang onto an identity I created based on approval, validation, and seeking worthiness outside of me.
The crazy thing about transformation and this journey of self-actualisation is you get to a point, and you realise it's doing the work so you can meet any moment with one thing.
Love.
Because no matter what we do in each moment, a part of us dies.
I get to choose which part dies. So do you.
Like I shared, Fear of Dying is one of the 6 biggest fears.
It's so easy to think that the Fear of Dying is the fear of leaving this physical body.
I think what we truly fear, is the dying of the identity that we had created.
Because... who are you if:
- You're not a martyr and saving everyone?
- You're not the people pleaser that says yes all the time?
- You're not the victim that needs rescuing
- You're not the one self-sacrificing and putting everyone else's needs first?
Who are you without your guilt, shame, anxiety, or the one that has to be happy all the time, or the bubbly one, or the one that is the problem solver and has all the answers?
Or... who are you if you can forgive your past, forgive your transgressions to yourself and others, forgive and really let go of all that has been done?
For every action we take, we're either going to love ourselves that much more, or love ourselves that much less.
For every thought we think, we're either going to love ourselves that much more, or love ourselves that much less.
For every moment we meet, we're either going to love ourselves that much more, or love ourselves that much less. ....and all of this has to do with, what part are you willing to lay to rest?
If you let go of all that you know or think you know about yourself... and allow it to meet a peaceful death, Love truly does open up.
However, if we can't see a life beyond our identity, beyond who we think we need to be to fit in or be loved and admired, it's Love that dies.
The Love inside cannot be realised, nor does it have room to breathe.
The resentment, the despair, the judgement, the righteousness, the blame, the guilt, the doubt, the shame, the addiction to dissatisfaction, the relentless criticism of thyself... that kills of our trust in Love.
So... We're either killing our trust in Love so that we can continue to keep an identity we created alive to maintain the status quo... OR.... We're willing to kill off the identity... so our trust in Love can thrive... and this is where a Love for life lives.
We get to choose which part dies.
May we all have the courage to choose Love - and meet the death of who we think we are and who we think we need to be or who we think we should be.
In meeting the death of our identity - it is the only way we will hear the wisdom of our Heart.
I believe as a parent, the gift is the awareness of choosing to let the identity die.
For it is the identity, ideals, and beliefs on who we thought we had to be, which create suffering, disconnection, and survival in our family life.
Our children are constantly asking us to Choose Love. They are continually wishing we would let go of betraying the self, to loving the self...
For... it is ONLY from this place, a place where we are so centred within our whole being that we can be and accept them - for everything that they are, everything that they aren't, for all that they have done and all that they haven't.
....because we can do it for ourselves.
Loving from this place has no strings attached. There is Freedom and Liberation in this kind of Love.
This my friends, is what I call wholeness.
Sending Love,
Yummii xx
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