The raging inner child

Uncategorized Mar 18, 2021

Is your inner-child raging?  

The fracture you feel in your parenting is to do with the unhealed fracture of your experience as a child.  

In making peace with our parents, it isn't about rehashing the past.

Making peace with our past isn't about rehashing the trauma or rehashing what has happened.

Making peace with the past is about being able to see it from a higher level of mind and a higher level of heart.

It is bringing understanding to our parents' story.

Contemplate on this, on a scale of 1 to 10, how seen, heard and understood did you feel as a child?

Now, I'm not asking, did your parents loved you?

I'm asking how seen, heard and understood, did you feel by your parents?

Did you feel really loved for your essence?

What would that answer be on a scale of 1 to 10? If I were to ask your parents, how much did they love you, on a scale of 1-10, what would they say?

I can honestly make the assumption that they would probably say 11 out of 10 or even 100 out of 10.

They loved you more than life itself.

So why the discrepancy?

You may be wondering... Why is it that I only felt seen, heard and understood, around a 3 or 4 or maybe even a 5 or 6, and yet my parents loved me more than life itself?

So now, I'm going to invite you to step into your parents' shoes and on a scale of 1 to 10, being in their shoes, how whole did they feel for themselves?

How much love did they have for themselves?

What you'll find is that it is directly correlated to the capacity in which they could make space to see, hear and understand you.

You can't give what you don't have.

Our parents failed to meet us with our needs, when they had no capacity to give.

This might be where you are in your parenting, with yourself, or in your relationship.

So, when we can really truly understand our parents' story, when we can have empathy for what they went through, We really break free.

We liberate from the pain of the past.

Here's the thing that's really missing about this that not many people teach and it's this.

To be able to feel the disappointment of not receiving what you needed as a child and being able to also hold in the same space, the compassion and the empathy for your parents and knowing they did the best they could with what they had.

And so, the healing of your past isn't about rehashing the story, isn't about going back into the trauma and reliving those moments.

It's about learning how to have the capacity to hold your disappointment, to hold your upset and at the same time, create space and empathy and compassion for your parents.

And when you can have a greater understanding, your parents did the best they could with what they had with what they knew, and you break free from taking it personally, you start healing the energetic bonds that are leaving your body from those moments.

Because without this, you're parenting from your inner wounded child.

And it isn't going well - for your child, or for you.

It is possible to break free from your rage and your anger - and I can show you how.

If you and I can get on a call, I will share with you the process to help you transcend this rage - and be free. 

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