You don't feel loved...

Hello beautiful soul!  

Have you ever laid in bed .... and wondered - what am I doing wrong?

Why don't they love me?

  

Why is it that I'm not appreciated?   What am I doing wrong?   Am I not enough?  

Whether it be with your spouse or your children... it can be particularly frustrating and painful when you are "Spiritual"...and DOING EVERYTHING!

• - The gratitude practice
• - The meditations
• - The visualisations
• - The mind movie
• - The affirmations
• - The intention setting
• - The possibilities

....So here's where you're going it "wrong"...  

You're doing it from a place of trauma (I'll share with you one of the most profound tips on how to tell you're doing it from a place of trauma. Keep reading...).  

You're seeking love from a place of trauma - and you're loving from a place of trauma.  

Most people think trauma ONLY happens to you if you have a dysfunctional childhood or if something "bad" has happened in your past.  

Trauma is misunderstood.  

Trauma is also seen as "terrible".  

The truth is, we all have trauma.  

You could have had the most incredible and loving upbringing - and still have trauma.  

You could have had the perfect childhood and still have trauma.  

TRAUMA is misunderstood.  

Trauma is not a dirty word - nor is it a word that means you're broken.  

Rumi says it beautifully; "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."

Trauma are the barriers.  

So... if you want to feel really loved, seek all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.  

The emotional barriers.  

The mental barriers.  

The Spiritual barriers.  

When you are loving from your trauma - the person you're giving love to can't receive it.  

When someone is loving you, and you're in your trauma - you can't receive it either.

Learn how to love - and learn what it is to receive Love.  

...That's how you'll really understand what it is to be loved.  

PS - Here's the tip.  

These are the indicators to tell if you're loving and receiving love from a place of trauma.  

If you ever feel or think, "I have to fix this", - you're in trauma.  

If you're ever experiencing:  

• - I need to get out of this
• - I need to fight for this
• - I am scared of this
• - I need to make them feel better

...Yep, you're in trauma.  

PPS Fun fact - My trauma had me addicted to adrenalin... and "safe" relationships felt "unsafe".  

When I was shown Love - it would feel boring, or unsettling and I never trusted it.

When I was shown drama - it would feel "normal".  

Chaos was my baseline.... glad to say, my unhealthy addiction to adrenaline (in the form of Flight, Fight, Freeze and Fawn) is no longer welcomed in my relationships.