History doesn't have to be our destiny. Our past doesn't dictate our future; the pathway to this can only be possible if we alter the narrative of our past.
Making sense, bringing compassion and understanding of our past takes courage.
Without that understanding, without the awareness - History does repeat itself.
If you're familiar with Attachment Theory; John and I both grew up in...
When Avery was 3 weeks old, I had the biggest epiphany with John. It was the first week back at work for John and my first week alone with Avery (this is where I think modern society has NOT been set up for families to thrive! - Another topic for another day!).
It's the end of the week, and John comes home from work. He is exhausted - and what I see is probably only the surface of what he is...
I know this to be true about parenting.
EVERY person wants to be a great parent. We want to be able to be the kind of parent that is loving, patient, kind - and create an environment for our children to thrive.
We want to be our best. We will to be our best.
So why is it that we sometimes struggle? We don't like who we become when we yell. We don't like who we become when we're consistently...
Is your heart feeling heavy right now?
I would love to share a perspective if your heart is feeling heavy.
It's easy to wear the burdens of the world on our shoulders - and then we may turn to guilt or shame. Guilt that we're not doing enough and want to do more; shame because we feel that there is something wrong with us not being able to "fix this".
There may even be an experience...
How does it feel to say these words: "I don't know!"
Does it feel disempowering? Do you feel inadequate? Do you feel somewhat silly? Or does it conjure up curiosity? And excitement?
....Or are you thinking..."Well, it depends?!"..!
What if "not knowing" is a powerful place to stand?... Pause for a second, and just sit with it!
....Imagine... the power of "Not knowing".
One of the biggest...
Do you ever feel that you're holding it all together?... just.
Maybe you're a first-time parent who was so excited about parenthood, and this gig is nothing like you expected. Your expectations of yourself are not being met. Your emotions morph from frustration, angst, fear, worry, guilt, and shame.
Or maybe you're a few years into this gig of parenthood, and it's like groundhog...
"I'm so scared to have children. I feel that I'm too selfish and not ready to give up everything so I can have children. How did you do it?".
That was a real question!...
"What makes you think that you have to give everything up?" I asked.
"Everyone around me says it's all about the children when you become a parent. They say they never have time for themselves..and I feel that they...
Today was Avery's 4th b'day. Four years ago, Avery gave me the opportunity and gift of Motherhood.
I've had a few people in the last week share their fears on Motherhood (they aren't currently mothers). It is something they "desire" - yet "fearful" of the possibility that they may lose themself in the process.
They asked me if I felt I had lost my identity? Or feel less...
How often do you check in with your partner/ spouse on whether "You're on the same team?".
It's a tough one - and when it comes to parenting, your children are the recipients of the energy exchange you have with each other.
They are watching how you love each other.
They are watching how you resolve and move through differences.
They are watching how you respect one another.
They are also...
Avery has started becoming really rigid in the last few weeks. I've been observing him.
He doesn't like getting his hands dirty - and has to wash them all the time. Everything has to be orderly and lined up.
Recently, his behaviour has also changed. Extra-agreeable and overly regulated.
It was odd to me, and I knew something was up. Preschoolers are meant to have big emotions and LOVE messy...